Saturday, April 7, 2012

Interview with Sandra DeBose



Sandra Dee Debose

Author of Naked and Not Ashamed
I'm excited to introduce to you Sandra Dee Debose as she shares her life openly in her book, Naked and Not Ashamed.  Read her response to my questions in this interview.


1.      Why did you write this book? Writing this book originally started out as a way to relieve stress.  I found writing a relaxing outlet.  However, as it began to evolve I found that I was actually being set-up by the Holy Spirit.



2.      What were you hoping individuals would get from reading your book? An insight to the struggles and victories faced by Christians.  Knowledge of God’s mercy and grace.



3.      What is the significance of your title and cover?    I had to be open and honest in order to show God’s Love.  Testifying about REAL situations that we face as Christians allows my readers to know that they too can share their situations without shame or fear. 



4.      How did your faith play into you accomplishing this task?  Believe me without faith I would not have been able to set out on this venture.  It was by faith that I obeyed God’s leading to finish.



5.      I had two stories that were my favorite; Matthew and Zoe and A War Going On.  What was your favorite story you shared?  I would also say “A War Going On.” 



6.      Why?  Young lives were changed on that Chicago corner that night!





7.      What was the hardest thing to share in your book and why?  I wouldn’t say that any of it was “hard.”  I was concerned about how my readers would receive “Matthew and Zoe”. The feedback that I have received has confirmed that what we go through is common to man.  Women are opening up to me and sharing their experience.  Women who thought that they were alone.    



8.      How difficult was it to write? It was not difficult at all.  I’ve been telling these stories for years but simply decided to write them down.



Or did you have a writing schedule that you kept to?  I wrote while my family watched television and during my quite time. I self-published so I had no deadline.



9.      Do you have plans to write any other books? I have many more stories, poems and original songs in my spirit that are waiting to be released. 



If so are you currently working on one?  Yes, I am currently putting things in order for book two. 



10.  What would you suggest to someone about going for their dream(s), whatever it is?  I found that you can’t share your vision with everyone.  Don’t be discouraged if those closes to you do not receive your vision.  Remember Joseph’s own brothers threw him in the pit.  When you share your vision, expect to have a “Pit Experience.”  Don’t let it throw you.



11.  What is the response you have gotten so far about your book?  I have received all positive feedback. 



12.  Getting a book published is not something that happens quickly, how did you combat the “voices” that said this would not happen?   After coming out of agreement with the spirit of procrastination everything supernaturally fell into place. God showed me who to contact and how to present it.  It is not as hard as people think.  I self-published my book for under $300. 



$35.00             Library of Congress copyright registration fee

$125.00           ISBN and Bar Code

$117.00           Printing of 50 copies

$14.00             Web-Site



I found the cover picture on the internet and wrote the artist.  She gave me permission to use her print free of charge.  I found the entire experience fast and easy.  To God be the Glory!



     To order Naked and Not Ashamed go to: www.sandradebose.com
You can also go to her link and read an excerpt from her book. You can also purchase a E-book from her site as well.




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Saturday, March 31, 2012

Interview with Lesa Williams



This month, I want to introduce you to some people that I think you should know.  I want to introduce you to lesa Williams and Sandra Dee DeBose.  Today, we will meet Lesa.  I asked Lesa some questions and I want you to read her response.








 1.  Tell us about your company?  Butter by  Jolez came from the fact that all our products have some kind of natural organic butter ( shea, mango, cocoa, etc. ) and JOLEZ is from my family's  name combined: the "JO" in Johnnie, the "LE"  in Lesa, and last but certainly not least the "Z" is our  daughter Zaley.
Lesa's lovely daughter Zaley


Butter by Jolez is paraben-free, vegan friendly and color-free, but is much more than a body care maintenance system. It is a home based, all natural hair care and skin care product line. All of our products are hand mixed and made with the love that we have for this company, and what our products do for our customers. Butter by Jolez products are herbal, mostly organic, nourishing, full of natural ingredients; and many of our customers use them on their newborns or small children. A company that takes pride in providing a line of must have products, for anyone who wishes to take better care of their hair, and skin.  



2.      What made you venture out to create your own line? Well when I went Natural back in 2000’ natural hair care products was very limited, so for a while I kept my hair very short.  When I decided to grow my hair out, the products that I found either didn’t work, or were too expensive. So I decided to do my own. I asked my husband what he thought about starting our own, and he was all for it. Now I have all the quality products I need for my hair regimen, as well as sell for less than most other companies. Now you have Butter By Jolez.






 
3.      How difficult was it to step out and do this and did you find support? Stepping out to start was the easy part. I secretly would put money away to get products because I didn’t want the burden of paying back any kind of loan. I did that for about 18 months and then I was able to get the products.  The difficult came sort of with the concept (name/bottles/labels that kind of thing).  My biggest support was my family (Husband, daughter and my mother)





4.      What personal challenges did you face as you tried to get your company up and running?  My personal challenge was over extending what I thought I could produce in the beginning. Right before starting the company I was overcoming a lot of sickness.  As things picked up, my health wasn’t as sturdy as I would have hoped, though doing good now, that created a bit of a setback.





5.      I know personally you are a woman of integrity regarding your products and your service, how has setting this standard affected your business? I think you should sleep, eat, & drink what you believe in through all aspects (mental, physical, spiritual ) I can’t sell you the consumer, something that I myself, don’t believe in.   I am passionate about my products.  I try to be one on one with my customer service so I can always use feedback as a source of improvement.




6.       Starting a business can move slowly, so how did you keep yourself encouraged? Being that the idea of starting this business manifest in me a several years before I decided to do it.  My husband always kept me encouraged, also jumping on board 100% as co-owner, he was my rock to lean on when some days I thought the day wouldn’t come. 




7.      What is the direction you have for your business going forward? I as well as my husband would like to venture into different beauty & skin care areas we have yet to experience. Whether its facial mask, natural hair care specializing in specific natural hair issues, cosmetics, getting our products in every natural hair care salon, extending our accessories or getting distribution in several department stores worldwide. We are constantly going to the drawing board with new ideas.



Some of Butter's other products, earrings, hair accessories, etc.



8.      What would you share with someone trying to start a business? Stay focused, believe in yourself because if you don’t believe, no one can plant that belief in you and look to God for the ultimate guidance, because I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me-Philippians 4:13




9.      What goals did you set for yourself regarding your business and what strategies did you use to overcome any obstacles? Well, since I was really in the natural hair trend, I sat down and wrote a list of goals I thought I need to get down, in order to get my business up and running. After I shared with my husband my goals, we became a team in getting them accomplished.  We created budgets for different categories, the butters, the oils, the containers, ink for the labels, and ingredients for each product.    When we got the basics of it down, a lot of things changed, the look of the website, the bottles, and some ingredients have been enhanced. As time progress and business picked up, we created quotas, increased inventory, and prioritized our supplies.  Staying very positive, and sticking to goals really helped us overcome any obstacles that we faced.



 
10.  What final thoughts would you like to share? My final thoughts would be no matter what it is you want or trying to achieve, put God first, believe in yourself, see your dreams manifest with hard work.  I’ve always looked at my company as my baby, and we always want to take good care of our babies.  So instill your dream, and birth it in to reality.  With positivity and faith, God will hold your hand so you can’t fail.


To contact Butter by Jolez: 






twitter: butterbyjolez



Click on the link below to see the video I created on my experience with the product.  

Vimeo video ~ Butter by Jolez product rating






Saturday, February 4, 2012

Who Have You Set Loose?


Who have you set loose?

Preached by Jewel D. Williams 2009



Jesus wants to live in us and He is faithful to keep His promises. In order for Jesus to live in us there are some things that must happen. What must happen is you and I must die. Not a physical death, but a spiritual dying to our selves, our own ways and our own desires. We must die to our false Trinity or false god. What is that false Trinity, it is our own god of me, myself and I. When we do, Christ will live in us. God also promises that He will keep His promise in providing for us.



Life Abundantly - …I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. (John 10:10b)



What do people think when you say abundant life?

  • Wealth, success, position, happiness, importance and so many other things.  However, this is not what Jesus meant.



Abundant life – Is not just functioning through life, but a life filled with the fullness of the abilities and resources God has for His children. It is a life filled with His purpose, His gifts, His joy, and His peace. This abundant life that Christ came to bring is one that is available no matter what you face (wealth or poverty, health or sickness) you still have His abundant life. Your situation and circumstances do not have to change the fullness of the life you live in Christ.



In order to have this abundant life it will require the work of Christ in us, but it also requires something else. What do you think that is? It requires the people of God at work for the mission of God.



In a missions book there is a graph that I remind myself of often. It talks about the mission of God. It says God originated the mission, Christ enacted the mission, the Holy Spirit empowers the mission, the church carries the mission and the world receives the mission. In other words, the Triune God; God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit originated the plan of salvation, brought salvation to the world and empowers the people of God for the mission and you and I are to do the work of taking it to the world.



The scripture today helps us to see both parts at work; God and man in the mission.

 John 11:39-44



"Take away the stone," he said. "But, Lord," said Martha, the sister of the dead man, "by this time there is a bad odor, for he has been there four days." Then Jesus said, "Did I not tell you that if you believed, you would see the glory of God?" So they took away the stone. Then Jesus looked up and said, "Father, I thank you that you have heard me. 42I knew that you always hear me, but I said this for the benefit of the people standing here, that they may believe that you sent me." When he had said this, Jesus called in a loud voice, "Lazarus, come out!" The dead man came out, his hands and feet wrapped with strips of linen, and a cloth around his face.  Jesus said to them, "Take off the grave clothes and let him go."



VS 39 – Take away the stone – The first step for us in this mission ordained by God, is there needs to be someone position to remove the barriers of Christ calling forth the dead.



What are the barriers? Anything that keeps the individual from hearing the call of Christ, in this case it is the stone.



In order to remove the stones that block individuals from hearing Christ call, the people of God must be in positioned. You cannot remove the barriers from the comfort of your chair at home or from the comfort of your seat at church. You have to be at the places where the dead are, where the need is. Jesus called for those that were standing near the tomb to come and remove the stone. He did not send word to their houses to come; those at home were of no use in the moment of need. We have to always be ready to hear God calling us to be in the positions and in the moment of need.



In order to remove the barriers you will need strength. The Holy Spirit empowers the children of God, yet we often forget we have the strength to remove barriers. We look at the barriers and think they are too big. As children of God we must realize Jesus will not call us to an assignment that we have not been given the strength to accomplish. We have the strength, power to remove what stands in the way of others being released from the death grip of sin. Sadly, too many of us look at the “stones” and think, those are just too big and instead of joining in the work, we stand as spectators.



In order to remove the barriers you will need wisdom. Wisdom will allow you to examine the situation and determine if you can remove the barrier by yourself or if you need others coming alongside of you to push away the stones. When you seek Godly wisdom you will be able to discern what tools are needed. You would not go to remove this stone with a spoon. That wouldn’t work. Instead you know you need physical strength and you will need the help of others to remove the stone. Sometimes we have individuals that are lost in sin but are facing addictions, habits and other things that will require us seeking the right help so they can be released from the grave.



In order to remove the barriers you will need teamwork. There are some barriers that you will not be able to move by yourself, this is why the command is for the entire body to be a part of the mission. Your pastor cannot do it all by him/herself. God is calling for us to work as a team to remove some barriers, some stones that block the graves of those that need to be called to life in Christ. This mission is not a spectator sport, it calls for all to be a part of the team doing their part, rolling away some stones.



In order to remove the barriers it will call for being inconvenienced.  If we are going to remove some barriers that keep individuals from life, we are going to have to break a sweat; we are going to have to do some work. It took the individuals that Jesus called to put their muscle into the task of moving the stone. They were not expecting to do this task, but Jesus had need of them and they went to do the work. You may not be expecting to do some things, but you must always be ready to be called on and be inconvenienced for the good of someone else.



In order to remove the barriers we are going to have to have a discerning ear. We are going to have to listen for Jesus’ call for us to remove the stones. It is not you or I that save, but we do need to be positioned and ready for the call of being a stone remover. When is the last time you listened to God calling you to remove some stones? When is the last time you allowed yourself to be inconvenienced so that someone else could be rescued? Are you listening?



In order to remove the barriers we are going to have to have faith and trust in what Christ can do. When Christ said remove the stone, Martha said, hey, he stinks! Its been four days. In other words, he’s been dead too long. We do that sometimes we see people on drugs for years, or living lives that seem as if there could be no redemption from and we think, they have been dead too long in their sins, surely it is too late? But Christ reminded Martha what he told her before, believe in me and see the glory of God at work even in the unthinkable things. He simply is telling her trust me, not what your eyes see. You and I are going to have to trust with our hearts and not what our eyes see, if we are going to be able to remove the barriers in the lives of the lost.



VS 41-43 This is the work of God. Jesus called Lazarus forth. Do you remember the day you were dead and through your blinded eye and your deaf ear you heard your name called? And you came forth from death to the life Christ was now giving? Christ alone brings life to those he calls forth. Now there is something I don’t want us to miss. Christ is the only one that can bring life, but there is still a part that he calls for us to do.



“Jesus said to them, "Take off the grave clothes and let him go." This is my question, who have you set loose lately? Lazarus was bound up. He had death clothes on, his hands were bound, his eyes were covered, and his feet were bound. Surely Jesus could finish the process and remove the grave clothes, why does he tell those around to do it? It is very simply, is the plan as God set forth. God set the plan of salvation in motion when he sent his Son to enact it through his blood on the cross and the Holy Spirit gives us the power to do the work. This is the work. We are to first remove any barriers from the lost hearing God call them forth into the life that His Son, Jesus Christ offers. Then when they hear and come forth from death, it is now our responsibility to help them to be set loss from the past and the ugliness of sins touch.



What are the grave clothes? It is anything from the life lived before coming to Christ that holds us in prison. Death clothes are a reminder of death, inability, lack of freedom, and restriction. The death clothes also carry the stench of death upon them. How can you truly live if you are not free and the reminder of death is still upon you?



Can I tell you that there are many believers today trying to function in life but they are still wearing the grave clothes? Oh it doesn’t matter how long they have been saved, it doesn’t mean they don’t love the Lord either, it simply means we have not been doing our jobs of removing the grave clothes. We often say things like, they should just get over it, or they should just change this or that. But can I tell you today that it isn’t always that easy because their hands are tied, they can’t reach up and grab the cloth that has them bound. Sometimes they don’t even know they are still bound because they cannot see clearly, their eyes are still covered. It isn’t that they are not asking God for help, but the help He sent, isn’t doing the work. That help is us. Today, I want to say the church has a mission. God is calling us to set some people loose.

Prayer: Lord today, help us to do our part in the mission. You have called us to be delivers of your Word to help those in the grave to be able to hear your call for them to be set free. And then when you have set them free help us to remove the grave clothes. Those things that bound them up and keep them from being free to soar and be all that you have called them to be. In Jesus name we pray, amen.




Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Who is need of the Father?


Luke 15:11-32



I believe many of us have heard different lessons taught from this piece of scripture. We’ve heard it preached about the prodigal son and we’ve heard it preached about the father in the story. Today I want to present a slightly different look at this scripture.



As a storyteller, I see all the characters within the story to gain a better understanding of the message being presented. This story is not only about the father, or about the prodigal son. It is a trilogy. There are three main characters within this story that we need to examine. And as we do, I want you to take a look at two sons and a father and seek Gods answer to the question, “who is in need of the Father”.



At the beginning of this chapter the Pharisees and the Scribes (religious people) began to murmur because of Jesus’ association with those they felt were unworthy, the publicans and the sinners. They are outraged that Jesus is eating with sinners. This started Jesus on his reciting of several parables to get across his point to the religious people why he was associating with the sinners, which led us to the parable that Jesus gives regarding the father and the two sons.



(NIV, Verse 11-13) Jesus continued: "There was a man who had two sons. The younger one said to his father, 'Father, give me my share of the estate.' So he divided his property between them. "Not long after that, the younger son got together all he had, set off for a distant country and there squandered his wealth in wild living.



Imagine, scene 1 of this drama, the youngest son made the decision to go to his father and ask him to give him his portion of goods. The father then divides the goods up between the two sons. And as soon as the younger son receives the inheritance from the Father he goes to a distant county and blows all his wealth on wild living. Now let me give you some of the sub-plots to this drama.

When the son goes to the father and says give me my share, what he is saying in essence is I don’t want to wait for you to die and I don’t want you to have the control over my life any longer. I don’t want to listen to your will, your rules or follow what you say. So give me what is coming to me so I can go my own way and do my own thing. I call this scene – “The road to nowhere” or “The path to the pit” I can see in my imagination that he took the road that lead from his Father’s house that would take him to this distant country.



And as he walked farther down this road that he thought was leading to riches, fame, success, it was really leading to destruction and death. With each step, it took him farther away from the father’s house (farther from the sounds, smell and visual of the father’s house) and closer to the sounds, smells and the visual of destruction. Oh, I believe he made a lot of friends along the way that probably told him what he wanted to hear because he was the “man” of the hour. This is not just my thought but scripture let’s us know he had help in his wild living and blowing his riches. You can always find friends along the path of destruction that are willing to help you blow your inheritance, but then are they true friends? Or are they pawns to draw you further from the Father’s house?



(NIV, Verse 14-19) After he had spent everything, there was a severe famine in that whole country, and he began to be in need. So he went and hired himself out to a citizen of that country, who sent him to his fields to feed pigs. He longed to fill his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating, but no one gave him anything. "When he came to his senses, he said, 'How many of my father's hired men have food to spare, and here I am starving to death! I will set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired men.'



 In these verses we see the son has come to the place that his money has run out and now there is lack in the land. Did you know that when you waste the Father’s inheritance, that a famine will always surely follow? There is always lack in the life of a child that squanders his Father’s blessings. There is a lack of power, a lack of spiritual insight, a lack of discernment because you have squandered God’s riches. So this son decided to try and fix his lack. He tried to attach himself to a citizen in the place. Why is it when we mess up instead of realizing it and changing, we make matters worse by trying to fix it ourselves?



We try to attach ourselves to “foreigners,” those that do not know the ways of our Father and therefore will not help to direct us back into His presence. These foreigners ways are not in line with the Father and we simply find ourselves further away from our Father’s house, instead of solving our problems. So when this son joins himself to the citizen he begins to work in the field to feed the swine, an abomination for a Jew. He was hungry and allowed his fleshly desire to overrule what he knew about the rules of his father’s house and began to eat from the swine’s food. But then it says in verse 17, “He came to himself”. Did you know sometimes we have to be flat on our faces in a pigpen and in slop before we come to ourselves? Some of us have to come so low before we turn around and realize who our Father is and ask why are we living the life we live?  

When he came to himself he decided to humble himself and he came up with a plan. He decided he would go to his father, and seek his forgiveness. So that path that this son first took to lead him away from the father was the same road he had to turn around and go back on to get to his father. Sin will foolishly make you walk away from your Father’s house, with much pride but God’s humbling will make you humbly return. How humbling must it have been for this son that went away from his father’s house with money, and dreams of grandeur, but to now have to pass those same houses along the way that he passed before, this time in shame of his sin? What realization he must have had to now see himself for who he really was. No longer prideful, huh?



So what do we learn from this first son and his story titled “The road to now where” or “The path to the pit?”

 The first son, the youngest son shows us several things. First the youngest son shows us in this instance that youth represents immaturity. In our immaturity we make the decisions that we do not want to wait on God, who is our Father, to give to us his riches. We make the decision like the youngest son to tell God, you can no longer have control over my life, and I’ll take care of it myself. But I do want your gifts and your provisions, but I want to do things my way. How does this translate?

We take our gifts, physical talents, and natural abilities and we tell God I will make my own way and I will do my own thing. I do not want to wait on your timing so I’ll go and do things myself. Then foolishly; we begin the path that leads us out of the Father’s house and to the road of destruction. Some of us don’t want to wait for God to heal our marriages so we leave, and start that path down the road of destruction ourselves. Some of us don’t want to wait on God’s timing for a mate, so we go get one ourselves. Some of us don’t want to wait on God’s timing regarding healing our hurts or issues in life, so we go and find our own way of dealing with it, things that we think will numb the pain.



There are so many ways we do not want to wait on God so we foolishly turn away. In this instance the house represents the place where the Father dwells, His presence. Yes some have turned from the church because they are tired of waiting on God to do something and so they leave the presence of God so they can do it themselves. And in doing so with pride and arrogance we walk down a road that we foolishly thing is leading somewhere, but it is the path of our destruction.

We move to a foreign country and attach ourselves to those citizens in that country all trying to live this fantasy of a life we think we should be living. But what we are really doing is attaching ourselves to things that are foreign or contrary to our Father and his ways. And sometimes it takes us in the midst of our foreign situations to come to ourselves, turn back to our Father’s house and go running to seek His forgiveness. We have to do like this son and “arise”, get up out of our sinful thinking, get up out of the sin of our pride, get up out of the slop. And in our arising we realize that it is Jesus that we need to help us, so we need to go humbly back to our Father’s house. This story doesn’t end here. Scene two takes place, where the father enters.



(NIV, Verse 20-24) So he got up and went to his father. "But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him. "The son said to him, 'Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son. "But the father said to his servants, 'Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. Bring the fattened calf and kill it. Let's have a feast and celebrate. For this son of mine was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.' So they began to celebrate.



In these verses, the scene unfolds as the son goes to the father and is ready to confess his sins. Yet something happens that catches our attention. The father saw the son and come to meet him on the road. He showed him compassion, he did not allow the son to have to make the journey all the way back by himself, and as a result he came to get him. And the son confessed his sins. The father did not banish the son, instead he tells his servants, come, bring him the best robe, and put it on him, put a ring on his hand and shoes on his feet. My son that was dead is alive again, he was lost and he is now found. And they began to party.



So what do I call this scene, I call this scene “Amazing Grace”. The son was lost but now he is found, he was blinded by sin but now he can see. He was a wretch, but the father said come to me. It was not because of his own power but because of the compassion or grace of the Father. Now looking at this scripture from a human standpoint the father may seem to be too soft on the younger son. He could have told the son no in the first scene. That’s what we would have done had one of our children came to us and said give me your hard earned money and let me go blow it on what I want to blow it on. 



We would have given them a lecture about the importance of a dollar and how we probably had to recycle a thousand pop cans, deliver 2,000 news papers at 3 a.m. in the morning to make our first dollar. But why didn’t this father do that?



I believe the son did not just wake up one day and decide to ask for his money. There had to be some thoughts brewing in his mind as he got up day after day to do the work in his father’s house. He probably was thinking, why do I have to work so hard when my father has all that I need. Why do I have to sacrifice when what I need my father has? Why do I have to deny my own desires when my father can let me have what I want? The son became angry and bitter at waiting.



So I believe the father was aware of the son and he only allowed the son to take the money because he already knew what was up that road. Just as he knew that the road would take his son away from him, he also knew it would bring him back, so he stood and waited for when the rebellion would turn into repentance. How many days did the father come out and wait for the returning son? I believe daily he waited for his son to return.



What does this tell us today? Our Father is not sitting in heaven unaware of the journey we are on. He knows the dissatisfaction that we allow to fester in our hearts against his ways. He knows the rebellion of our hearts and He wants us to turn to him, but He will willingly allow us to go on the journey that leads us away from his protection and His presence.

Yet, because He knows what is ahead for us on that journey, He is patiently waiting for us to turn back to His presence.



When we do, we then can experience the “Amazing Grace” of God. The son said I’ll be happy just being your servant, but the father said no, I will restore you to complete son-ship and ownership. He gave him a robe, God will give us new clothing when we turn back. He will clothe us in His righteousness. He doesn’t give us some cheap clothing but costly, the best. It is the best and it is costly because it was purchased with the blood of Christ. This father gave him a new ring; in that time rings had the signet or the seal of the family on it. Our Father gives us a new ring, or a new seal that brands us as one of His family, one of his chosen children and along with that ring it carries the full privileges of the Father. This father gave his son new shoes.



Ephesians 6:15 reads “And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace” We are made ready with the gospel to run our race for the Father. This father welcomed the son back into the house and a celebration took place. We should all rejoice, but not yet, there is another scene to this trilogy. This next scene presents for us the oldest son.



(NIV, Verse 25-32) "Meanwhile, the older son was in the field. When he came near the house, he heard music and dancing. So he called one of the servants and asked him what was going on. 'Your brother has come,' he replied, 'and your father has killed the fattened calf because he has him back safe and sound.' "The older brother became angry and refused to go in. So his father went out and pleaded with him. But he answered his father, 'Look! All these years I've been slaving for you and never disobeyed your orders. Yet you never gave me even a young goat so I could celebrate with my friends. But when this son of yours who has squandered your property with prostitutes comes home, you kill the fattened calf for him!'  " 'My son,' the father said, 'you are always with me, and everything I have is yours. But we had to celebrate and be glad, because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.' "



In this scene we have an older brother that has come from the field and he sees all this partying going on in the house and he wants to know what’s happening. The servants tell them your brother has come home and we have killed the fatted calf and we are having a party. Now we look to see the brother’s response. Is it joy, happiness that his lost brother is found, right? No, he’s angry! So, what would I call this scene? I call this scene “What about me?” or “When is it my turn?”



Now I want us to take a look at this brother. I believe this brother has often been neglected in the preaching from pulpits. Our focus has been on the brother that was lost and his return and the father’s response to that. These are important but in forgetting the other son, we neglect the other side of this lesson God wants us to see.



It is ironic that we often forget about this brother, because that is part of his complaint, I’m often forgotten for my willingness to stay faithful. This brother became so angry that the verse says “he would not go into the house.” The father then comes out to the son and talks to him about why he would not come in. The older son complains to the father, but father I never left you, I did whatever you said do but where is my party, when will it be my turn? The father did not answer the son harshly as some of us would. Instead this father took the time to help the oldest son understand that while he had not thrown him a party, everything that was his was available to him. We are only celebrating because your brother was lost and now we want to rejoice that he has come home.



So I have a question for you? Which son was in need of the father? Or let me ask it another way, how far outside of the house do you need to be, before you need the Father to come and get you?



The older son represents the one that was more mature or had a greater understanding about the father because he had been with the father longer. This older son saw what his brother did and how his turning away affected others, including himself. Think about it. When the younger son moved away from the father’s house who had to carry on in his absence? It was the older brother. So not only did he have to take care of his own responsibilities he had to also take care of his brothers. Resentment had to have been growing there. This brother had to be bitter at having to carry all the weight while the younger brother did as he wanted to do to please himself.



He probably wanted to see the brother come home, however he wanted to see the returning brother treated differently. He wanted him to be punished, at least a little bit. He wanted him to have to hurt, or feel the burden of what his leaving had placed upon this older brother. But to hear that the father forgave him and restored him, the older brother was angry. Think about it, he was still out in the field working and then is surprised with a party going on. He had to have been thinking, I’m still taking care of his work and he is being treated like an honored guest, what’s up with that? His anger kept him away from the father’s house.



How many of us have stepped away from God’s presence because of our anger at our brother or sister? You know what I mean? Your spiritual brother or sister, or maybe your wife or husband, was like the younger son. In their weakness or immaturity they stepped away from the Father’s house. Their stepping away called for you to carry the burden of their turning.

You labored many days in their absence and now they have returned. But why aren’t you happy about it? Maybe because you have become angry that it seems like they have gotten away with something. You thought they would have to suffer or something but instead they have been given all the provisions they had before. You are not jealous about that, but you are saying in your spirit, “What about me God? I did not walk away from you but I still have to deal with the burden of their leaving and to see them partying it up, it’s so unfair.” Or we say in our spirit Lord when will it be my turn? I have not stopped serving you as I should but now you make a big deal about him or her, what about me? When this thing hits our spirits and our hearts, we step outside the doors of our father’s house. Now we do not go the total distance of moving away as the first son did, but we still have stepped outside and we, just like the other son is missing the blessings of being in the Father’s presence.



This then leads us to the final climax of this story. The father just as he waited for his first son that had gone away to come and meet him and bring him into the house, this same father moves away from the festivities going on in the house to come get his son that is standing outside the door. The Father is always aware of His children’s absence from His presence. And because of His amazing grace He is always willing to get them from where they are.

How does this apply to us today? Today, we have some younger brothers and some older brothers standing distant from each other because of ones sin and the others inability to let go of the anger. Which one is in need of the father? Both of you are. I am asking you today to be transparent not before me, but before God.



There are some relationships right in our churches that God wants to heal both the one that has gone a long distance on the wrong path and the one that stands just outside the door. Both of you are in need of the Father so that He can heal your hearts. This is what He wanted the religious people to understand. I am giving my time with the lost, but you too are in need of my presence because of your heart condition. Don’t let your heart condition keep you on the outside of God’s presence. See this story is about the relationship not only with the father and the lost son, but also the relationship with the hurting son and the father. And then it is also about the relationship between the two brothers. They all depend on one thing, the “Amazing Grace” of God.

Parents and children. Do you have anger toward a rebellious child or are you a child that is anger and disappointment in their parent? Right now I have to tell you God has restoration for both of you. His amazing grace can restore the prodigal that has gone his or her own way and has blown the blessings of God. He wants to restore you back to a rightful place within his love as well as a right relationship with each other. To the one that has stayed behind and continue to carry the burden, He wants you to know He has not forgotten about you. He wants to release the burden of your heart so that you can find yourself back in His presence.



Husband to wife, or wife to husband. God wants to restore some relationships today. The people of God cannot move to the next level God wants us to be, until his two sons are back in the same house, under the control and guidance of the Father. I believe God wants to do that today. If you want to be able to go to the next level God has for you and you want to move back into the full presence of God, then today is that day. Don’t worry about what others think, because all that matters is God. He already knows who the prodigal’s are. Because there are some prodigal’s  reading this today.

Some that have turned away from God; some need to come home and some have already humbled themselves but just don’t know how to make that journey back. Well God already is waiting to meet you; He will not make you take the journey by yourself. Think of it this way. Today, God the Father stands waiting to restore you, to embrace you with His love and to show compassion on you, all you need to do is humble yourself and come to Him. For those that have anger or bitterness in their hearts because of what the prodigal has left on them, step out and met God, the Father and be reminded he is what you need today.